Raise Your Hand

In the United States, more than nine million people – about one in five -  fall into the category of 'caregiver,' yet many neglect to raise their hands and acknowledge that they are. As roles change in our lives, whether temporarily helping a loved one or going in for the long haul, the guidebooks are unclear and far too long. read more

Self Kindness

Kindness is one of the simplest gifts you can give to others and yourself. Showing that you care, especially in this fast-paced world, is important, but requires mindfulness. Small acts of kindness, like looking into someone's eyes, saying hello, or saying thank you, can make a dramatic difference in mood and attitude. When you notice someone upset or angry, pausing to ask, "Is there something that I can do for you?" creates a shift in energy and fosters connections. read more

Swimming into Meditation

I move toward the deeper side, where there are lanes marked for lap-swimming. I’m not the world’s greatest athlete, but I learned to swim before I could walk, and while I’ll happily frolic when there are beach balls around, or body surf in the ocean, swimming laps is something that is as much exercise as meditation for me. read more

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As a professional in the caregiving world or as a family caregiver, you have many things that need your attention throughout the day and none of us has forever here on this plane. So, I'm going to ask you to consider whether those messages or Facebook headlines can wait. Not forever, but long enough to talk with your son or your spouse or listen to something positive – even music! Stop scrolling and start being alive. read more

Breathing Iris

According to a new Integrative Health specialist I saw, doing a body reset is in order. In addition to supplement changes and trying a new meditation routine, she had me buy the book, Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, by James Nestor. When I told Melissa (my right arm here at Breathing Spaces) about the book, her reply was, "Ha! The irony is blissful." The woman who started Breathing Spaces also needed to rethink how she was breathing.  read more

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Time to change. Think of asking for help as a sign of wisdom. You realize that you’re at your peak and that muddling through produces less efficient results. By taking an active step in reaching out, you are taking back the reins of your life. You take your car to the shop for service, right? Maybe even have a delivery service for groceries to ease the running back and forth? Those things both count as "help."  Perhaps, then, whether it’s a problem you’re not sure how to solve, or you're too emotionally drained, or just can’t figure out how to get that document sorted, you can raise your hand. read more

African Violets

Still, as I try to be as ruthless as possible with deciding what to store until we find a new house, what to bring with us for the month or two we'll be staying with my mother, and what to sell or give away, what I remember is all the ways Mom helped Grandma find comfort and a sense of home in a house that wasn't hers, and I thought I'd share them here, because it's something many of us will experience as our own parents age. read more

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None of us knows what the future holds, and one thing that this past year has brought into even more focus for me is being in the present moment. Where you have power is NOW. Stop speed dialing through your to-do list and pause. Stop replaying what has already taken place and move forward. The wrangling during the night about conversations you wish had gone differently, the chances you didn't take, the flashback to years ago, none of these are events that can be changed. read more