It's a dilemma we all have as the people we love age, move out of their homes and into ours (or care homes) and eventually die. On the one hand, those family treasures are imbued with a ton of meaning. On the other, they're just things, and keeping a clock or a table or even my stepfather's collection of science and match textbooks doesn't make my memories any stronger, just as donating or selling these things won't diminish them.
It is of utmost importance to give yourself the time and space to become aware of what’s happening with your emotions and not shut yourself down. Your feelings are valid, and it is essential to acknowledge them. Shutting down is the worst thing that you can do.
An image that comes to mind when I think about the grief experience is that of a nautilus. If you visualize a nautilus or look it up, you will see that each spiral is progressively higher and above as it goes around. This is probably the best analogy to illustrate why it is normal in a grief journey at any point: to go around and around through anger, frustration, blame, resentment, disapproval, laughter, joy, hope, motivation, stagnation, and more.
My Yogi tea bag today says, “The gate to happiness is self-compassion”.
Grief and loss come in many forms throughout our lives. Is it the life that we once had planned that never worked out?
With holidays upon us, this should be a happy time. Regardless of your faith between scurrying around for gifts, decorating, cooking, perhaps more pressure can be mounting on your already full days of caregiving.
Grief can paralyze you if you let it so don’t be afraid to reach out for help or talk to someone that can understand without judgment.
Many of you that we’ve heard from have just had a loved one pass away. We thought this would be good time to re-share this blog. Be gentle as you go through this part of your journey…..
Grief is also difficult when you realize the life that you once had, or perhaps thought you had has an unexpected void.