The holidays are upon us, which adds yet another layer of responsibilities. Whether it's baking cookies or coordinating a gift for your mom from the family, this time of year has its own pressure. Or perhaps it's navigating the grief of a loved one no longer with you. All of this can have an additional impact this time of year. Speaking to a friend about this recently, we referred to this as "emotional whiplash." You might feel emotions and deep-seated feelings that others won't understand, side by side with the demands of what needs to be done.
Fall brings on a sense of change and is a time of year that I look forward to. I am in awe of the colors changing, and the temperatures getting cooler gives me a nudge to turn inwards. A time of reflection and the ability to clear out what is no longer serving me.
Doing something that fills your spirit up needs to be part of your daily to-do list as well. As necessary as deep breaths and exercise are, so, too is filling your heart with joy. When is the last time you felt truly alive and fulfilled? What activity allowed you to feel that way? I'm guessing it wasn't plugging through from chore to chore but instead an activity that filled your heart. Though you may not be able to skip off to Maui for the day, there is likely something that will give you a lift.
There is an elephant in the room. He's HUGE, yet we somehow seem to overlook him.
Are you so exhausted that you don’t even notice it? When you wake up, you do you go straight into the tasks of the day?
As caregivers, we often feel like we are running on empty and giving from an empty well. We often do not have time for ourselves.
Shutting down listening mode in the middle of someone talking to you, happens. Whether we are busy multitasking, or perhaps we've ‘heard it all before’, I'd be willing to guess that all of us have been guilty of this. My way is better, don't ya know?
For many people, the shock, change, and consequences of remaining at home during this “stay in place” quarantine period is hard to deal with.
Our reactions have both a positive and negative effect on those around us, as well as ourselves.
The good news is that technology is starting to catch up with care giving needs and now there are a variety of options to help alleviate care giving stress.